How to Use 2023 Dating Wrapped to Manifest Relationships in 2024

Making Single During the Holidays a Time for Leveling Up Our Dating Life

📷: @raynatobin

It’s not news that being single during the last two months of the year is notoriously more difficult than the other ten. Forget Santa, singles are the spectacle of the season. How are we going to react when someone comments on our dating life? What are our single New Year’s Eve plans? Do we have the guts to attend holiday parties alone? Most importantly, what are we going to wear?! 

We aren’t just single during the holidays; we are the spicy hot topic of every social media algorithm, holiday party, and news outlet. Including our very own column. There are singleton tips galore. We’re spoiled for choice for what tips we’ll maybe implement into our dating life before the year's end. From boosting our confidence, managing expectations, and practicing slick comebacks to those pesky dating life comments, we’re prepped and ready for a single holiday. Everyone can’t stop talking about how to get through the holidays single, but what happens when the festivities are over?

We’re simply single again without the sparkly lights illuminating our relationship status. But with a new year comes fresh dating experiences, new connections, and unexpected adventures. Single is a powerful place to be as we continue our dating journey in the new year. There’s no one else to factor into our 2024 personal goals… yet. We can manifest and make moves in just about any area of our life we want to level up. As we tackle the holidays single, there’s one thing we can’t neglect: our personal dating goals in 2024. 

But how do we manifest relationships or a fulfilling dating life in 2024 during the holiday rush?

New Year’s Eve is about reflection. Hence the 2023 Dating Wrapped, which isn’t the worst trend TikTok has birthed. We learn from our past, and dating is no exception. It may be slightly cringy and the last thing we want to do in the holiday cheer, but reflecting on our 2023 dating life can help us make healthier dating choices in 2024. Nothing is perfect, and those dating imperfections make our dating life better. 

When do we have time to reflect? 

The five-day intermission of life between Christmas and New Year. When life doesn’t seem real, and time is a true construct. Use this time to sit with the last 360 days or so and ask yourself these questions:

What were my happiest moments? Who was in them? Where was I?

What were my biggest struggles and how did I overcome them? 

What were my dating wins?

What was the biggest lesson I learned in my dating life? 

What am I most proud of?

There’s no perfect answer. Open your journal or notes app and start jotting whatever comes to mind. Creating your own 2023 dating-wrapped will bring those memories closer rather than brushing them off as another year passes. There may be moments we don’t want to remember, but one day we will wish we did. So, we can feel how far we’ve come. 

After our reflections, we can start making moves. Good news, we can do these moves on the couch for now. We create a fulfilling dating life by using the law of attraction and manifestation to bring about our personal goals. Note, you’ll have to get off the couch at some point because action is required. It is the action we take to increase our self-awareness and make small but mighty steps to making healthier dating choices. All aligned with the dating goals we set for ourselves, well, now. 

Get the manifesting ball rolling by answering these questions. Writing them down makes the goals more concrete, but if that’s not your vibe, just allow yourself to think about them. 

What kind of dater do I want to be in 2024?

What is the theme or dating narrative of my dating life next year?

What type of relationship am I looking for next year? What does that relationship or partnership feel like?

What is my goal for my personal development? How do I want to improve my dating confidence?

What are my goals outside of dating? Career, friendships, hobbies, etc.?

How do I envision my happiness in 2024?

Imagine these questions as a starting point to setting you dating intentions. Allow your heart and mind to be free in its goal-building. You are the center of the answers. What do you want?

Now, take these personal goals from paper to reality. The law of attraction works best when we incorporate these goals into our everyday lives. Aka speaking them into reality. We become more confident in our goals when we’re able to discuss them freely. Share them with your friends or therapist. Hearing our voices say these goals not only keeps us accountable but helps us believe they will be and are our reality. Still warming up the vocal cords? Try the manifesting board. Use magazine and newspaper snippets to curate your 2024 goals. Visualize your best self.

Our biggest flex for being single during the holidays is the opportunity to take our time to envision our future. We control our dating narrative and we’re shamelessly the center of it. So, in the holiday haze, don’t forget to focus on you. Look how far you’ve come in 2023 and look where you can take yourself in 2024.