How to Use Positive Affirmations to Express Your Dating Needs

Positive Affirmations to Tell Someone in the Early Stages of Dating.

📷: @stevie_jadee

By now, we’ve all heard about the power of affirmations. Rather, we’ve tried them for ourselves or saved an Instagram post with the intention of trying the “I am” rituals. There’s something to be said about positive talk. Incorporating self-affirmations into our self-care routines can be healing and lifesaving in the moments we feel unattached from ourselves. They’ve proven to be an irreplaceable bathroom buddy in the middle of a date or social gathering. Sometimes looking in the mirror and hearing something good about us encourages us enough to step back out into the world. 

We need to hear the positivity to remind us of our confidence. And how powerful is it to remind ourselves of that? Just me, myself, and I vibe, as our dear Disney princess Demi Lovato once said. Positive affirmations are our date sidekicks, plus bathroom mirrors. If you’re still holding out on giving self-affirmations a go, try this positive affirmation trick on your next date. 

Affirmations are a great tool to incorporate into our dating lives, but they don’t always have to be directed to ourselves. We can spread positivity to the people we date. Affirming words in the early stages of dating can be a kind and creative tool to show appreciation and encourage consistency. It also creates an honest and open dating environment.

Positive affirmations for dating can look a little different than the “I am” statements we are used to. When we are using them to validate an action or express our gratitude for someone, they take a different form. We tailor them to something our date did or how they make us feel. By attaching affirmations to something good that happened, we simultaneously express our needs, while showing appreciation for the person we are dating

It's a win-win situation. Our date feels good because we complimented their character. In turn, this gives them the confidence to continue acting similarly. Thus, makes us happier because our needs will continue to be met in a way that makes us feel insecure. And the best thing about positive affirmations in dating is we don’t have to wait until things get serious. We can incorporate them into the very first date, or even before. 

Self-advocacy at its kindness. It’s crucial to share our needs and relationship likes in the early stages of dating. Affirmations are a simple and encouraging way to express how their actions make us feel. Sharing them in a positive light makes us feel good, the person we’re dating feel good, and the relationship starts on a positive note. The dating world always needs some more positivity in it, and so can our dating lives. 

Positive affirmations can complement or affirm consistency, open communication, date planning, or follow-up texts. When someone expresses their needs, shares their vulnerable side, texts consistently, or communicates effectively, these are opportunities to use a positive affirmation to tell them you appreciate their efforts. But also nonchalantly telling them to continue doing the thing that makes you feel good.

I get it. Affirmations are hard to say to ourselves, let alone another person. So start with these easy and chill affirmations. Switch them around and make them yours!

“Thank you for making a res! I love a res and adding it to my calendar."

"You are a great communicator."

"It's so fun chatting with you. I love our conversations."

"Thank you for opening up. I appreciate your vulnerability and for trusting me."

"Your friends were great. I loved getting to see that part of you."

"Your consistency means a lot to me. It makes me feel secure."

"You are amazing. It's been so fun getting to know more about you." 

“You always call when you say you will. Thank you for that.”

“I love hanging out with you. You have the best energy!”

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