How to Meet a Vacation Fling: Your Mamma Mia Vacation Romance
6 Mindful Tips to Meet Someone on Vacation (Without Dating Apps)
We go on vacation to pause our regular programming and live out our Discovery Channel dreams. Or maybe the Mamma Mia dream. Whether it’s a break from work, our personal life, or exploring different cultures, vacation is a time for personal rediscovery. We can learn from other’s history, try their foods, and learn about different sex positions.
Dating on vacation doesn’t just live in movie scripts. Meeting someone on holiday is actually viable. By leaning into today’s wellness culture’s revelation of living in the moment, finding a vacation fling is no longer impossible. Well, it never was impossible. Before we lost touch with social openness, people traveled to Greece, fell in love, and moved across Europe to start again with a Greek man. My family can attest.
A Mamma Mia dream still exists. A vacation romance is out there. We just must be open to it. Like staying present, practicing mindfulness elevates our holiday experience and dating frequency. Mindfulness on vacation isn’t about escapism. It’s an opportunity to absorb different cultures and lifestyles to incorporate into our current lives. This can also be said for the singles we meet on vacation.
The world’s dating culture is diverse. Our views of monogamy, marriage, sex, and relationships differ from city to country to continent. Even if we don’t get to discover the origin of French kissing, a coffee date or late-night chat along the beach is a dating seminar. Dating’s study abroad, but with potential touching. There’s much to uncover in international dating. But to reap the benefits, we must get comfortable with the uncomfortable. Yes… talking to people.
So, how do you meet a vacation fling?
Stay open and nonjudgmental.
Before heading off on your adventures, make a mental note or write about your intentions for the trip. This doesn’t have to be too serious. Jot it down on the plane or look longingly out the plane window. Promise yourself to be open to meeting new people and opportunities. During vacation, remind yourself of your intentions and stay open to hearing new opinions. Remember, not everyone dates the same way. Someone’s dating approach may bring you new perspectives. You must be receptive to it.
Build your confidence.
It’s a tale as old as time. When you feel good about yourself, others feel that. Dating on vacation is all about raising your frequency. You’ve heard it all before, but it works. Especially when we’re looking for a vacation fling. Though we learn from others, we also bring our dating lessons across the pond. Practice self-compassion and confidence through quick mediations or solo moments in the sun before going up to that cute foreigner.
Make the first move.
Yes, to meet people, we must talk to people. It’s daunting after years of unstable socialization on and off the apps. Yet, vacation is where we can be whoever we want. No one knows us or will know our name if they submit us to Overheard for our pickup line. To save ourselves from that fate, we need to muster up the courage to walk up and say hi. Call it practice for back home. Don’t worry about a language barrier. Ask if they speak English. If not, there’s always Google Translate. Proven reliable in my Greek coffee date. After raising your frequency, you may find people coming up to you. In that case, stay open to conversation. It may lead you to the best dance club in town.
Don’t rely only on dating apps.
Switching your location on the apps is an excellent tool for meeting people abroad. But it’s not reliable if the conversation never leaves the phone. Remember living in the moment? If we’re stuck on the phone, we may miss what’s in front of us. It’s fun to have a gander to see what the app game is like in other countries. Just look up so you can swim in the eyes of the cute man looking at you at the beach.
Don’t get stuck on the idea of having a vacation fling.
Finding someone on vacation doesn’t make your holiday successful. The collective experiences make the vacation memorable. Whether it’s alone, with friends, or with new people we meet. Setting the expectation that we must have a vacation fling only holds us back. Fixating on the goal of meeting new people for the sake of saying we did won’t keep us open to the possibility of it. Instead, it removes us from the moment. Replace the urge to compare your trip to someone else’s on social media with the intentions you set before. Trust in your own openness.
Pack condoms.
With that higher frequency of ours, we may get lucky. Keep the worries away by keeping your own condoms handy next to the cash you got at the airport. Like dating, everyone has different sexual rules. Stay steadfast in your sexual comfort. Don’t compromise what will make you feel safe when exploring those new sex positions. Be the holiday Samantha of your dreams.
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