Are the Sunday Scaries Why They Aren’t Texting Back?
It’s come to my attention that Sunday may be the least communicative day in the dating world. After several conversations with my friends and myself (lol), there was too much of a pattern of Sunday text disappointment to ignore. The Sunday Scaries have been around since the first Millennial took a drink.
There are multiple accounts of what a Sunday Scary is. The term has inevitably grown beyond a hangover to the gut-wrenching feeling of returning to work Monday morning. The Sunday Scaries are a drink full of emotions. It’s a Long Island Iced Tea with a rum floater. We’ve all had a case of them, but could this be the reason our crush isn’t replying?
Weekends are tricky in fresh dating relationships. We keep dates to a weekday schedule as we learn to balance friends, work, and a new human in our lives. We haven’t yet committed to a weekend day (keyword “day”) for the other. Plans with friends or plans alone make weekend dates complicated. We try to stay present by attempting to lower our screen time for a couple of days. However, with a lowering screen time, there’s a risk of lost messages. From the ones we like…
Though I can’t speak for everyone, there’s something exciting when your crush’s name pops up on your phone. We break our vow to stay present for the cutie, who is sending us a pic of their weekend activities. In haste to reply, we snap one back, curating a picture that captures fun, easy, cool, and breezy. Little do they know we’ve spent the last two hours ransacking Bloomingdales with our credit cards…
The communication remains consistent into the darkening hours as you both discover the city apart. Texts get flirtier and tension builds. Heads find the pillow with lucid dreams of the other until reality reaches Sunday morning. As we pick up the pieces of our week, there’s not much to report. We smile at the thought of yesterday’s conversations, as we have yet to dive into new chats with our growing crush. But as Sunday drags on, the phone buzzing slows.
Though most of us may hate to admit it, frustration settles in. We battle with annoyance as we try to stay calm despite the lack of texts between us and our new suitor. Our minds reverse back to the night before questioning the text exchange in a more anxious state. Except, we are jumping to conclusions too soon. Do you know that Sunday Scary feeling? Your crush is may be feeling the same. The difference in their scaries? Their cure.
Sunday plans are too diverse to determine that the reason they aren’t texting you back is because they are no longer interested. There’s no use in dwelling on a 1% chance because the remaining 99% chance is full of endless possibilities.
So, to move your mind away from the negative, here are a few reasons they may not be texting steadily on Sunday.
Massive Hangover
Catching up on work deadline
Friend Obligations
Family Obligations
They are spending the day in bed and off their phone.
Wholesomely reading a book
Meal prepping
Mentally dealing with the heavy burden of waking up tomorrow for work
It’s not you. It’s them. I’ll be the first to admit it’s hard to train your brain to stop dwelling on the negative. But a case of the Sunday Scaries might just be the reason your crush isn’t responding. Especially in the early stages of any relationship, we don’t yet know their Sunday tendencies. They simply may just need to spend the day alone.
But don’t fret, maybe missing their texts shows you like them. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, they say. Sunday is a day of rest and recuperating, culturally speaking. Don’t blame them. Blame the Sunday Scaries…. until there is something more to blame. ;)
Spend your Sundays practicing self-love! Try these tricks.
