Why Dating in the Summer is Better When You Don’t Focus on Dating
4 Ways to Live More in the Moment to Meet Someone Organically this Summer
📷:@stevie_jadeeIt’s no surprise that dating app usage slows down during the summer. Daters are flocking to European destinations with Mamma Mia dreams and bags full of sunscreen and condoms. The days spent at home are categorized by pantless nights in or dawn-to-dawn adventures. Phones are forgotten in heat confusion as we seek that summer high of living in the moment.
In the midst, there’s an inkling of hope our eyes will meet another’s. Marking the beginning of a summer romance that makes our pantless nights in more interesting. Dating in the summer is an endless game of pinning down the date. With billowing schedules and hyperaware libidos, finding someone to date and picking a day for a date feels impossible. A frustrating reality when everyone is trying to find the person to compare tan lines with.
Despite the long summer days, the next three months fly by as quickly as a seagull snatches our beach glizzy. Spending that time focused on catching your next date will make you lose that summer high the moment you find it. The purpose of your nights out becomes harshly objective, and overthinking takes over those precious nights in. Those mermaid daydreams of a water-drenched Eric only deprive us of the one thing that can manifest a summer romance. Our own happiness.
Positive energy is the fundamental tool for partner attraction. When we are living at a higher frequency, we radiate magnetic energy without effort. Connecting to this electric wave is easiest in the Summer. We’re encouraged to feel happier by the vitality of the sun and the community around us. It’s harder to resist the energy than it is to dive into the vibrations. Summer inspires us to care for ourselves and enjoy the good in the now.
So, how will prioritizing our happiness help us find a date this summer?
It comes down to the law of attraction. If you’re hesitant to tap into the power of thought, Summer is the perfect time to test the theory. Instead of focusing on the lack of a date, think of the abundance of your reality. It’s easy to find things to be thankful for when it’s warmer. Summer calendars are color coded with vacations, concerts, friend hangs, and beach days. Even if the days are clear, it opens the opportunity to do nothing unapologetically. Doing summer nothing is the rest you never allowed yourself in March.
Busy or blissfully unaware of what day it is, the center of our attention should be on the moment. Endless summer activities, or lack thereof, help us raise our frequency. Letting our minds be happy for ourselves allows our bodies to relax. Glowing with internal love for the world we are already in. We connect to the summer path we are on that leads us to the next suitor on our journey. The universe, God, or whatever you like to call the essence of life, sees our happiness as a sign that we are emotionally ready for someone new.
Some roll their eyes at the concept. Reasonably so, as the idea is semi-cliché and TikTok trend heavy. But harnessing the power of the law of attraction to find a date doesn’t have to be so metaphysical. Learning how to enjoy our current lives is enough to boost our pheromones.
So, here are 4 non-date-related summer things to focus on to help you get a date this summer.
Reconnecting with friendships.
Friendships teach us how we deserve to be loved romantically. They also show us what brings us the most joy. True friendship cultivates genuine happiness. Prioritizing nights out with friends and staying present during friend hangs raises our frequency. Openly enjoying these healthy relationships attracts people who share the same energy.
Sunny days of rest.
In a hustle-heavy culture, planning time for rest feels lazy. Yet, summer provides a unique opportunity to do nothing blissfully because everyone else is doing the same. After busy summer weeks, laying in the sun feels cathartic. One glance around the park and you’ll see you’re not alone. Let your mind drift off in relaxation and be thankful for a moment of nothing. Nothingness creates room for newness.
That summer vacation.
You don’t have to have plans to stroll along the coast of Italy to get excited. Summer is also filled with weekend trips and day jaunts to a beach or neighboring town. A coveted brunch reservation for the new rooftop is enough to buzz our energy levels. Imagine yourself enjoying each adventure with the ones already in the plans. The only lack is the bottom of our pina colada.
Nourish your mind and body.
Warmer temperatures make it easier to convince us to walk outside. Better yet, those book stands allow us to believe we should read. Use those added hours of sunlight to love yourself. Cheesy, but effective. When we feel good, we can show up for our lives with less distraction. We must love ourselves first, before we can love anyone else, right? Plus, we’ll have more stamina for those long summer days and nights.
Now is the time to set the intention to live this summer for you. Doing so doesn’t mean we can’t still want a relationship or a casual date. Choosing to enjoy the present doesn’t negate our dreams. It helps the world continue to create a reality that aligns with them. In the moments you feel happy this summer, note the people and places around you. Look for a mirror to see the glow that radiates from you. Allow your smile to be seen by everything beyond you. Before you know it, your summer calendar will be filled with people new and old, making your days sweeter, and maybe even your bag of condoms a little lighter…