The Universe is a strange place. Astrology, spirit guides, destiny… all wrapped up intricately in a cosmic path concocted for each of us.

Maybe you don’t believe in the Universe or the ability to manifest something you want or need. If that’s you, try to compare this article to your own religion, speaking to a Rabbi, or making some sort of confessional. No matter what we all believe, there is a common factor in sharing our dreams.

Another common factor is the bizarre feeling we all get when we’re talking or writing about a product, and it pops up on our Instagram feed. Or worse, when we’re just thinking about it…

Instagram knows exactly what we need at the exact time we need it. I have an inkling that the Universe works just the same. I think Instagram stole the Universe’s algorithm. The more you say, the more you write, the more you think, the more it listens. 

Before you leave the page, I want to say this is not another article about the art of manifesting. It’s about the art of conversation. The act of having honest conversations with your friends or even strangers.

The Universe has a way of listening to us when we’re the most comfortable in ourselves and in our words. When I believe, we all do our best work.

But there’s one little catch… it’s hard to open up to people, especially about dating. It’s personal, and even with our most personal of friends, it’s difficult to share what we truly want. We are doing ourselves a disservice, not speaking our truths or sharing our stories. 

Maybe the art of conversation starts with telling our friends about a match on a dating app. That’s where I experienced the freaky algorithm.

I was facetiming my best friends. We were updating each other on our lives when I started talking about a potential date I may have with someone I matched on Raya (the notorious dating app I’m still unsure about). Potential date, as in I haven’t heard from this potential person since the New Year (we were planning on reconnecting after the New Year celebrations settle down). We were in dating limbo when their number popped up on my phone. At that exact moment, I was talking about them with my friends.

Sure, some say this is a coincidence, but would coincidence then lead me to drinks with a friend who knows them?! I made this discovery after sharing the potential date with my friend over drinks. I was simply speaking about my dating life.

This phenomenon isn’t so random. It’s happened to my friends as well. The funny act of sharing our dating experiences with each other has brought us all texts, dates, and reconnections, even from the most unworthy of suitors.

Talking about our dating lives openly with each other is like telling the universe directly what our desires are. Because we’re not actually asking, we are just living in the moments with our friends. Sharing our story with the world.

We are “putting it into the universe” or just releasing our feelings to the world without really knowing it. Sharing these thoughts out loud makes our story a part of the crazy cosmic path the Universe, or God, or Buddha has us on.

Those TikToks claiming if we listen to a specific song our soulmate will text us are sadly not going to do much… trust me, I’ve shamelessly tried. A song won’t bring us our dreams or a text from our “soulmate.” We will. You will. And you’ll do it by sharing your story, even if it’s just for your journal. 

Next time you feel like talking, try facetiming your best friends, ask a friend out for drinks, or call your Mum. People care about what’s happening in your dating life because it’s a part of who you are. The Universe is listening when you’re truly being yourself. Your dating life is like no one else’s, perfectly planned with the lessons you have to learn. It’s your story. And it’s your story to share.